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Mother, writer, teacher, poet, potter. As Tennyson wrote, "my purpose holds To sail beyond the sunset, and the baths Of all the western stars until I die... to strive, to seek, to find and not to yield."

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Within her eyes she carries my history
But she can no longer summon the images.
The brown orbs that I sought as a child
And avoided as a teen
Look blankly at me now, uncertain.

In her wedding photograph,
Next to my stoic father,
She smiles, radiant,
Her eyes so warm and dark
That even now I find comfort in their gaze.

I see her in a rose-hued photo
Peering over a buxom infant.
Her pride and joy.
I see my mother there--
Not in the eyes of the old woman who now sits across from me.

Decades later, in another wedding photo,
Her hair is silver but the eyes are still bright.
She stands with her arm around her high school sweetheart.
Finally together, their eyes crinkle gaily
As they gaze into a friend’s camera, defying age.

When did her eyes begin to betray the fragility of her mind?
Standing with her granddaughters along the Mississippi two years ago,
she looks uncertain, confused.
She gazes off to the right, in search of something she cannot remember—
An elusive thought, a memory trapped inside an unforgiving mind.

Look at me, come back to me,
Let me see those eyes that could be arrogant
And ferocious in their love,
That taunted my youth as you ran down the Old Mill path, calling out
“See if you can catch me!”

I look but you are gone.

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Aches and whispers

For my daughter:

Summer grass aches and whispers with
the dreams of a young girl’s heart.

As I watched from the kitchen window
and cows grazed in a field where they lived their whole lives,
Anne lay in the yard listening to Italian tapes,
writing a daring adventure set in Tuscany.
She saw beyond the trees on the horizon
of an Indiana farm to a world she had yet to know.

On my laptop,
this summer she stares at me through large, dark glasses
so that men cannot see her blue eyes,
a red scarf wrapped around her head.
“Ever-restless envelop pusher” she proclaims next to her photo.
She is crouched in an ancient desert.
In her hand she holds the top of a skull,
the absence of four lobes marked in relief under a white sun.
Her face is beaming, happy, as carefree as I have ever seen it.

She is of this earth--
part of the Coliseum,
the canyons of Petra,
the tomb of Napoleon,
the rocky shores of Taormina,
learning to drive a stick shift 30 miles outside the imaginary line
that divides the stolidity of Jordan from the chaos of Iraq.

She could be on Mars but she is bounded by this globe,
free of the bad dreams that plague those limited by their fear.

First line is taken from a poem by Carl Sandburgh

Sunday, March 12, 2006

We'll miss you Mr. Parks

Tuesday night, after a night of wrestling over state politics at my party's caucuses, I returned home to a great loss. There on my computer screen was a lovely, wise and gracious visage I had seen in person and in photographs throughout my life. Gordon Parks -- photographer, filmmaker, musician, composer, memoirist, teacher, poet and pioneer -- had died in his apartment in New York City at the age of 93.

His death wasn't tragic, as was that of Dana Reeve who had died the same day. His life wasn't cut short and he didn't leave behind an orphaned boy, but we are all a little poorer today than we were a week ago because he is no longer among us.

Gordon Parks lived his life fully. I seriously doubt in the end that he had regrets and his face carried the serenity of a man who found his way in the world and was satisfied. He started with nothing and by being open to opportunities and valuing them, he climbed to the top of his profession as a photographer for Life magazine. He explored the many talents buried in him and enriched both his own life and those of millions of people he never even met. After establishing himself as an internationally recognized photographer at a time when African American men were struggling for minimum wage jobs, he went on to be the first black to direct and produce a major motion picture (Shaft), to compose symphonies, a ballet and smaller musical works, and to write.

Yet, in my mind, what truly distinguished him was that he exemplified what it means to be a good citizen of the world and the best definition of an artist. His camera, his music and his words were his "weapons" to make the world better for the generations that followed him. In his first autobiography, he wrote that he realized in his youth that he had a "choice of weapons." He could either give into bitterness at the injustice he endured in early 20th Century America or he could fight it with a camera he bought for $7.99. He never regreted his choice. He documented the violence and pain of Harlem and the poverty of Buenos Aires. He truly held a mirror up to his time and showed us our own visage. Sometimes it was ugly and sometimes beautiful, poignant and celebratory. He had an eye for the moment and for the fleeting experience of being human and captured it with respect for his subjects and his viewer.

When his work was on tour several years ago it arrived in my town and I took the opportunity to try to help my regular English students develop an appreciation for the power of art. I marshalled them to the art gallery. Everybody wanted to come. After all, it was a day out of school. But when we walked into the gallery and they came face to face with Parks' pictures, I didn't need to do any more talking. As a matter of fact, I knew to be silent because his work spoke to my students in a way that words could not. The blue tints of a ghetto in Buenos Aires, the grim and awed faces of two black kids from Harlem staring into the coffin of their dead friend, the crowded bed with seven children in a tenement. American Gothic, with the dignified face of the African American cleaning woman in front of an American flag with mop in hand. Further on in the gallery were Parks' newest works. In his early 80s at that point, Parks had decided to experiment with the new digital imaging that allowed him to scan photos of found objects (flowers, petals, sea shells and fibers among other items) into a computer and then cut and paste them against each other and painted backgrounds to create surreal images of beauty and wonder. He was still learning, still creating, still living fully.

That same spring I had the honor to hear him perform a concerto from the symphony he wrote as part of the exhibit's festivities. He had written it as a tribute to his son, who was killed many years earlier. I watched him, his long fingers gliding along the keyboard in an atrium of the gallery, and considered how many places he had been, how much he had seen, how much of the century he had witnessed and shared with us and felt blessed to be in the presence of such an artist and man.

Gordon Parks lived life fully and shared fully of himself with his family, his community and strangers he never met. He opened our eyes and our hearts. Through his work and his life, he taught us that we each have choices, for good or bad. His life wasn't blessed with ease but he lived it with grace and taught me and many others a little about how we could do the same. Never pass up an opportunity for good or to make a contribution. You get out of life what you give. Perhaps that is the ultimate lesson of Gordon Parks' life and why we all felt a loss at his passing.

Saturday, March 04, 2006

Spring Fever

March has come in like a frisky lamb here in the north. The temperatures hover near freezing but in the air, along with the thawing detritus of winter, is an undeniable sweetness of spring. A brisk walk this week with a friend left us both smelling of fresh, springtime air. I can feel the flowers straining again in their wintry tombs and a restlessness in my bones.

In spring, I remember what it feels like to be in love, to be young, to yearn and to hope.

I believe there are universal laws of physics that apply to all aspects of existence. Cycles are everywhere and give me hope that I, my country and the world can find new life in the midst of destruction. How else can growth occur and life sustain itself?

If a flower, after enduring -25 degrees, can regenerate itself, is the legend of the phoenix really just a myth?

Sunday, February 26, 2006

To lead a happily boring existence—
What is that?
A hawk circles a mountain meadow
day after day, keeling through wide circles
on air that lifts his wings
over delicate dots of mountain flowers
as his eyes search,
search,
for movement,
for what sustains him.
Is he living a happily boring existence
or does his body strain
with anticipation of
finding life?

Friday, February 10, 2006

Teachable moments

These days I am again a teacher of a teacher. I am working with a bright and thoughtful young woman who would like to teach high school English. Each time I do this I feel like I am learning more than I am teaching. It's a wonderful opportunity to observe the craft of teaching and to reconsider the thousands of choices I make on a weekly basis.

Do you send out Drew because he is disrupting the class or do you try to talk him back into the class? Why isn't Alfred writing his paper? Will a pep talk help or embarass him in front of his sophomore peers whose bodies are surging beyond their control? Even if you talk out in the hall?

We have this class of sophomores right now that are dominated by bright, fun boys who totally undercut themselves because they cannot see beyond what is funny at the moment. Poor Katherine was totally deflated at the end of the day. "They hate me," she lamented. She had assigned them to write an in-class essay (the only kind you can be sure they will complete and turn in) and they complained bitterly. Two girls and a boy refused to do it. The boy has repeatedly refused to do work during the year. She sent him to an administrator. The girls sat there for a few minutes and then, seeing that they couldn't get tread, wrote the essay--with obvious contempt, but they wrote it.

As a longer-term teacher, I saw success. They were quiet, focused and did the work they were supposed to do. Katherine, who had had them excitedly whispering in her ear collaborating on an assignment the day before, thought she had again lost them. I knew they would forget over the weekend.

But it got me to thinking about this dance that teachers and students do. I am firmly in the camp that I as a teacher should help students find value in the work we do. Katherine does as well. We try hard to help them see the value of understanding how advertising and modern media manipulate them for profit and power, to understand how through language they can reassert power in their lives. There are these lucid moments of clarity where 19 students and I are one, working toward a common purpose. I'm convinced they are beginning to engage. Then, the next day I have to practically bludgeon them to write a paragraph. So, you second guess whether you have intrigued them at all. Are you giving anything of value to them?

Then, three years later, one of them will nominate you for teacher of the year or come back and thank you for teaching them how to write--tell you how what they learned in your class made college and their careers easier. I promised Katherine one day that would come. In the meantime, she will have to trust herself.

Monday, February 06, 2006

Serendipity or fate?

When I was young, with all the hubris youth entails, I believed that I was in charge of my destiny. If gods or God existed, he or she was not interested in one little human. I avoided people who thought they knew what God wanted. How could they? Talk about presumptuous.

As I grow older, however, I have become increasingly convinced that there is a fate (whether dictated by the gods, I am not qualified to say). This is not at odds with my original idea, but rather a recognition that our lives take us in ways we would not divine for ourselves, but that can grow out of choices we have made along the way. Being open to the possibilities of what our decisions and those of others have wrought and appreciating them for what they present us is what I would call a state of grace. There are people who spend their lives fighting their fate, railing against the gods for the path upon which they feel they were unfairly placed. Then, there are those who see each twist in the road as an adventure, a new opportunity, and make the most out of it, who take advantage of the opportunities presented. In so doing, they recognize that they cannot control everything, but they can choose how to live their lives along the path--and to keep an eye out for interesting new routes along the way. These are the people I admire and aspire to emulate.

I was reminded of this today when a friend, who I had told about this new page, tried to find it and, due to an error on my part, found a blog with a similar address. I took the opportunity to check it out and found it filled with words that spoke to me, of being open to what life brings you, of appreciating what comes your way and not barring the door to new opportunities and people. It spoke more eloquently than I am here about what I believe to be good and true in life. All I did was make a mistake in a url and I learned something.

Be open to the possibilities. Opportunities and gifts are all around us.